I quit my job and didn't even give 2 weeks notice today.
I've been working full 40 hour weeks since my grade 12 year and I just turned 23.
I've always been so jealous of people with fun part time jobs where they work with people their own age and have so much free time. All my work has been with people older than me and I've always adjusted my speech and body language to accommodate to my co-workers comfort level.
I did this all to try and save up $30k to go to college and ended up flunking out of my program 2 semesters in. I tried to have 2 part time jobs so I could at least have lunch money and go out occasionally without having to take student loans or ask my family. When I fell behind, I had to ask my parents for a $2k loan and it broke my heart because I wanted to do it all myself. I wanted them to be proud and to have something to brag about when people ask about me. It didn't work out and I immediately went back to a full time retail/administration job that sucked any remaining hope I had for a succesful future left.
Now, I'm 23 and I have no hobbies or talents. I've spent all my time until now going to work, coming home, screen time, sleep and repeat. I have a wonderful boyfriend and he takes great care of me but I wish I had more to tell him besides relaying stories my customers tell me or stuff I've read online that he's always somehow already seen or he knows from his actual life experiences.
I'm scared to keep being boring but I've always played it safe. I avoid trying new things because I'm just so scared to be bad. I've become used to being the butt of all jokes and cut off so many people because of it.
Now I want a part time job. Restaurant is ideal. I wanna work with people closer to my age and maybe make some friends? My biggest goal is to find a passion of some sort. something that's not just scrolling on my phone for hours. I'm really really nervous. Not about the job or money anymore but it's like I've never truly liked anything before. I don't think I can count fashion because that's just shopping and spending more money to what? wear clothes to go where?
I was really good at customer service but I honestly dread small talk and selling things. I hate making people spend money and I really truly just want to be good at something that's more than making my bosses $$$.
I would love to hear about someone like me getting out of this lifestyle. I'm a blankslate of a person and I'm so tired of being so boring. any advice helps? if you've read this far im already thankful.

i've been going back down the path of self harm recently, after being a month or so clean and doing it much less frequently. i've been consistently self harming since the seventh grade and it really makes me wonder why i'm still here. i've attempted hanging/suffocating myself, but to no avail. all i get in return is popped blood vessels in my face and bruising around my neck. i would just like to be at rest. i'm tired of trying and i want to leave my family behind. there are too many expectations for me that i can't openly express how i feel inside without fear or judgment or letting people down. even with my therapist. i'm living a lie and it's caught up to me. i just want to lay in bed and be warm. i've tried for the past two years to make my mental health better, as my depression, adhd, and bpd have all gotten worse, and psychotic symptoms have started taking effect, but nothing works. i can't stay consistent. i've tried losing weight to improve my body image but i just developed anorexic tendencies and a fierce binge/restrict pattern. i tried working out consistently but i lose steam eventually and stop going to the gym. i get beat down by school work and i just cant ever find a way to escape. i just want to be happy. i don't know how much longer i can go feeling so empty and fake and tired.

Hi i was hoping someone could give me an outsiders perspective. so here is my issue
In my history class we did a writing assignment and it was a two day activity the first day you write and intro paragraph and you turn it in and then you get feedback from the teacher and the teacher gives you a grade she would give you if that were graded. You receive the feedback and the "imaginary" grade about a week later in class in the same allotted time given to complete the entire essay and you edit and revise your intro that you did prior and get a real grade. Between the assignments there was a class day where for about 30 mins the teacher talked to the class and gave them advice and tips on how to write with their prompt. FYI this assignment ended up being over 15 percent of our grade. And the teacher did not grade it until 3 weeks later.
In my situation I was absent the first day writing the intro paragraph in class because I was not feeling well. The next day I went to her classroom even though I didn't have the class that day and I said I was gone and my teacher interrupted me and said I have to take the whole assignment without feedback with everyone else does the real essay. SO the next day in class I did my best to understand the prompt my class had that I didn't know of at the time and the reading sources that had to be included without reading them. I tried to understand what the suggestions were and what was being said in class so after class I asked my friends in class to tell me the prompt because I was gone. I decided over the weekend I will study extra with the information I had and try my best even though I do not have feedback. When I got to class to do the actual essay I was given a completely different prompt than the rest of the class and was shocked because I was completely blind sighted by the prompt. I panicked but then tried my best to come up with an assignment that was not terrible. I spent most of my time trying to work on the intro paragraph to make the work okay because it was half the grade of the assignment. I finished the essay and I was very nervous but thought I should not tell my teacher how unfair it is.
After 3 weeks my grade was released and I got a C- (I am usually and A-B student) and I was very devastated because it caused my grade to go down 5 percent and moving down to a B. I was distraught and went home and cried a lot because I started the school year with a C and had to work to get the A I had before this was graded. The assignment brought my grade back to a place it had been months ago practically erasing all my hard work. I decided I would talk to my teacher and explain because I felt like I needed to do something because of the sudden drop it isn't even possible to go back to an A. I sent my teacher an email and went to her class the next day asking if I could retake or do another assignment in the category to bring my grade up because it was unfair to me the way I had to take it. She completely said I couldn't do anything and I need to try hard in the final and I explain why I was so upset because it brought my grade back to what it once was not because I think my teacher didn't give me a fair chance. My mom sent her an email today asking if my teacher could explain the situation to her because she couldn't understand how the situation could be affecting me to the extent that it is. My teacher responded and said a bunch of stuff abt how trying hard doen't = good grades and then said I would fit better in another non advanced class
Was I in the wrong doing this?
WHat should I do next please help me!

Hi i was hoping someone could give me an outsiders perspective. so here is my issue
In my history class we did a writing assignment and it was a two day activity the first day you write and intro paragraph and you turn it in and then you get feedback from the teacher and the teacher gives you a grade she would give you if that were graded. You receive the feedback and the "imaginary" grade about a week later in class in the same allotted time given to complete the entire essay and you edit and revise your intro that you did prior and get a real grade. Between the assignments there was a class day where for about 30 mins the teacher talked to the class and gave them advice and tips on how to write with their prompt. FYI this assignment ended up being over 15 percent of our grade. And the teacher did not grade it until 3 weeks later.
In my situation I was absent the first day writing the intro paragraph in class because I was not feeling well. The next day I went to her classroom even though I didn't have the class that day and I said I was gone and my teacher interrupted me and said I have to take the whole assignment without feedback with everyone else does the real essay. SO the next day in class I did my best to understand the prompt my class had that I didn't know of at the time and the reading sources that had to be included without reading them. I tried to understand what the suggestions were and what was being said in class so after class I asked my friends in class to tell me the prompt because I was gone. I decided over the weekend I will study extra with the information I had and try my best even though I do not have feedback. When I got to class to do the actual essay I was given a completely different prompt than the rest of the class and was shocked because I was completely blind sighted by the prompt. I panicked but then tried my best to come up with an assignment that was not terrible. I spent most of my time trying to work on the intro paragraph to make the work okay because it was half the grade of the assignment. I finished the essay and I was very nervous but thought I should not tell my teacher how unfair it is.
After 3 weeks my grade was released and I got a C- (I am usually and A-B student) and I was very devastated because it caused my grade to go down 5 percent and moving down to a B. I was distraught and went home and cried a lot because I started the school year with a C and had to work to get the A I had before this was graded. The assignment brought my grade back to a place it had been months ago practically erasing all my hard work. I decided I would talk to my teacher and explain because I felt like I needed to do something because of the sudden drop it isn't even possible to go back to an A. I sent my teacher an email and went to her class the next day asking if I could retake or do another assignment in the category to bring my grade up because it was unfair to me the way I had to take it. She completely said I couldn't do anything and I need to try hard in the final and I explain why I was so upset because it brought my grade back to what it once was not because I think my teacher didn't give me a fair chance. My mom sent her an email today asking if my teacher could explain the situation to her because she couldn't understand how the situation could be affecting me to the extent that it is. My teacher responded and said a bunch of stuff abt how trying hard doen't = good grades and then said I would fit better in another non advanced class
Was I in the wrong doing this?
WHat should I do next please help me!

TW mention of self harm and suicidal thoughts
" Glass children are those who are growing up in a home where a sibling takes up a disproportionate amount of parental energy "
Well. Disclaimer : I am not a child, alright, I am 20. But I've been thinking a lot about the last 10 years of my life, and I am, as much as it pains me, a glass child and I've been since my sister's born.
Of course, at first, it was (I thought) only because I was the first born, the big sis, you know.
But 3 years ago, my sister discovered Tik Tok. Everyone knows Tik Tok, right? Well, we all know what kind of stuff we can find on that app! I, myself, found the description of a "glass child" there. I use Tik Tok frequently.
My sister always had problems with her friends. When she was younger, she was always in the middle of some arguing between two or three girls, never really had a day where she wasn't coming home with what I call "girl's gangs" problems (you know when two best friends suddenly split and get mad and get other friends to form like alliances and stuff to b*tch on the others? Ya know, old stuff, we've all been there).
She was never wrong in those situations. She was coming home laughing about how she was the peacemaker and never creating problems of some sort. Thing is, I know my sister. Like the back of my hand. Alright? I just... know when she's lying. Still, to this day, she always brags about how good she is to manipulate people and make them do what she wants. Alrighty girl, weird flex.
Well, she got to high school (what we call secondary one in Canada), and then, she started having anxiety. Like panic attacks and all? I've had those, still do these days, so I understood. I became her protector, her therapist, calming her down when my mother critized her for exagerating. I knew what to do, and I gave up all my energy to take care of her, of her mental health, as a good old sister does.
She made it to the second year of high school (secondary 2) with difficulties. Panic attacks again and all. 3 years ago, as I said, she discovered Tik Tok. I know Tik Tok and its algorithm : there are specific fyp where you can find videos about the same topic over and over again. I suspect she was in a dark side of Tik Tok, a depressed one, where you can see all sort of sad/depressing things and stories (I know, I've been there too, now trying to avoid it as much as I can because it affects me mentally and I start spiralling).
Cutting her hair short ( I guess the "funny mentally hill" trend where you cut your hair on a headbutt and dye it, I know, been there too).
Sexuality explored too. Like she was trans for a while and wanted us to call her another name (she isn't anymore, she told me so about 3 months in). I always respected her choices and calling her what she wanted to be called at that time. She was a kid, she was 13, so she was discovering herself and her preferences and all. No problem with that.
She started hanging out with some people like that too. She had a non-binary friend, a trans one, a furry one, etc. She was having fun with them. Great people. She finally had a group.
Some of them, however, had the same experiences we all hear about on Tik Tok. You know, some of them not in a great home, or in a bad relationship with parents, depression, anxiety. Hate to say it, but you know those people on Tik Tok who (unfortunatly) are bullied on the internet for being... like... huuuuh (wondering how to say that without insulting anyone) like stereotypical? Like... you know those who wants a cat litter in a classroom in a unironical way? Some of her friend were a little extremist on that plan. Again, never really bothered me.
We have two parents, a mom and a dad. They divorced when I was 7. My sister was 3. They never fought in front of us, never heard them, it was really a suprise. They went their separate ways. Me and my sis got used to go to each of them for a week, and then go back to the other for a week. It was fine, working good. My parents are both accountants, my mom teaching it too. I had a strong disagreement with my mom in 2019 about one of her (numerous) boyfriends. The only one i really hated with all my heart. This resulted in me leaving her house for about a year. My sis was still doing 1 week/1 week. Apart of that, my parents are pretty basic ones, never abused us and we always had everything we needed.
I started college. I loved it, still do, and was finally starting my life as an adult, I started a great job, was doing good in school and... was still helping my sister and my parents with her anxiety/ panic attacks. Even learn in my degree how to deal with people who disorganize.
Then, the cutting started. A lot of her friend were doing it, she told me. And then she started having those episodes where she was cutting herself. Never with something sharp, like a knife or else. But with like compass and crayons? Then, she started having suicidal thoughts. Then, and that is where it all went down, she called 911 for suicidal thoughts. She was home alone and the police called my mom.
What had she done? Scratch herself... with a pencil.
I've had panic attacks before. And suicidal thoughts that crossed my mind but I never acted on them. Never. And I can't imagine myself doing it. I talked about it, of course, with my best friend, someone I trusted and it was making me feel better. How did I know my sister was doing that and having those thoughts? She just said it, casually, at dinner with the whole family. Like... girl? It really got the mood down, everyone worried and she was like... glowing? I don't know how to say it.
She was always a bit dramatic and had a way of making everything about herself, but it was never about negative things. More like flexing a good grade or whatever. She was always talking about how depressed she was, how she was suicidal, and the things she was saying were... like straight up a depressing tik tok. Like one day I found something she said ( I think it was like "you don't understand how this feels it is like blablabla i don't remember) WORD FOR WORD in a Tik Tok. It is like she wasn't expressing her feelings, but made up phrases you find on the Internet when you type "panic attacks" or "depression".
After a second call to 911 for taking 10 advils, she got admitted to psychiatry. At that time, I was watching my parents fall appart, running around to appointments for her, my dad having stress acnea (at 45) and both of them exhausted. It was a real drama. Everyone in the family talked about it. It was the only subject of discussion, the only thing that was on everyone's mind.
I was hanging out my seat in class with my phone on my belly to be sure to feel it vibrate if something happened. We were all in a bad place.
And then, we got a diagnosis of autism.
I'm sorry, what? Where does that come from? I mean, alright, we'll deal with that one.
But then. That's where all went down for me. Sis started therapy, changed school, went to an adapted classroom for people like her and with disabilities. My parents were still all over the place.
Except where I needed them.
I was 18, at that time, starting adulthood. I have ADHD. It is really hard for me to respect a schedule, think about every appointments I have, every homework, every luggage I can't forget to bring to mom's or to dad's. I was also giving my all in school, never missed anything, straight A's and working my ass off.
I started realising that everytime my parents texted me was to ask/talk about my sis.
Every. Single. Time.
They'd ask me to bring my sister her lunch that she forgot, to go get her when she was down, or get her to her appointments like I didn't have a whole fu**ing life I was trying so hard to keep on line.
I gave all my free time to her needs and my parents's. I educated myself on autism, defended her when my mom was thinking she was faking because I wanted to prove I was there for her. That I was the life saving good sister. I never, ever, heard her say thank you.
Never.
The only compliments my parents were giving me is "thank you for getting your sis for us. Thank you for being there for her. Thank you for doing things with her."
I went trough some stuff, at that time. I hurt my knee and was failing my physical tests. It got to the point I wasn't even sure I liked my degree anymore. I was having a really hard time. But my parents never saw my pain. I have a tendency to hide things, sure, but I was really trying to talk to them about how I was feeling. They were listening, and letting go. Why didn't they start worrying for me like they did for my sister? I don't know, don't really care now. I was having suicidal thoughts too, I wanted to yeet myself in a tree and even stopped driving so it wouldn't give me options. They left me alone, because everytime I tried bringing up the fact that I was not in a good place, my sister was disorganizing at school and they needed to go to the hospital to be both there for her while she fainted from hyperventilating. Every fcking time I was talking to my sister, she was acting like she lived trough everything and was telling me she knew more about suicidal thoughts than me cause she went to psychiatry. Excuse me miss gurl, but who was fcking there to help you trough your panic attacks hun? How do you think I know so much?
Seeing I had practically no support from my already exhausted parents, I took matters into my own hands and started going to therapy. My doctor also prescribed me with anti-depressants. I was going to be ok... on my own. I've had really bad days, real hard ones. But I got back on my two feet. At least, I think so.
School was over and it was time for summer break. I had a job I loved on a boat. I've had a blast on that boat, I wasn't jumping from a house to another, I wasn't always in luggages, I had my own room like a little appartment of my own on the ship. I slowly started to discover a backpacking/adventurous side of myself. I needed air, was travelling far from home as soon as I had a week or two off of the boat.
At the same time, my sister had stopped self-harming and having suicidal thoughts. She's was now in a school for adults to finish her 4th and 5th year of college. She wasn't in a special classroom anymore. Changed friend group.
But here's the thing. Cause there is always a "but".
I started realising how much my sister was toying with us, with my parents. As soon as the diagnosis fell, she became unsufferable. For example, when I say I hate loud noises and strong light, she says she has it tougher because, ya know, "i'm autistic". I can't say something without her saying she has autism and that's why she has it worse.
When I have a good grade or I've hit a PR at the gym, I tell my parents because I am happy. I try to see life the good way, now. I'm quite proud of all the personal work i've done.
But she can't have a normal day.
It is always "ho I hated school because the light was making a sound" or something to point out she has autism.
I talked to one of my friend who is a social worker, and he told me autism is usually apparent in children. My sis was diagnosed at 15. But, and hear me out, all the things that make her autistic according to her psychiatrist... she's never really had them before.
You remember at the beginning of this rant how I told you I know when my sister is lying?
Well. I don't think an autistic person possess the flex of "being able to manipulate people so easily to get what you want".
She's always bragging about how smart she is compared to us because, you know, "ShE cAn FeElS eNeRgiEs AnD pEoPlE AnD iT AfFeCts hEr". Well, honey, I don't think that is autism. It is always little comment about how special she is because she can't do this, or that. Like I have ADHD, alright? I'm stimming all the time. I don't point it out to people for fun, actually, i'm quite ashamed of it sometimes. She bought all those fidget toys and brings them ALL to school to show how much she needs them.
One reason of why I am mad, as you can (unfortunatly) see, is my father's attitude.
The fact that my sis had episodes of suicidal thoughts and acts traumatized him. With reasons, don't get me wrong.
But now, she's clearly living well of drama and stereotypical behavior she never had before.
My father is fucking afraid of telling her no.
Like man, I don't think that if you ask her to unload the dishwasher ONE FUCKI*NG time that she's going to kill herself. Like come on.
One time, she called him cause she fainted cause she was hyperventilating cause the cleaner at her school wore a different hat than usual. Or another time where she learn that two teachers were eating togueter at lunch and not in the cafeteria?
I know my sister. She is clearly using him. She's got him hooked with a silent threat of hurting herself or making it impossible for him to receive a phone call without thinking she committed.
And. She. Fucking. Knows. It.
She left my mother's house because my mom wasn't buying her shit.
She left with all her drama about how she could appologize but she needs her space to think about what she (mom) did.
BRUH did what?!?!?!? It was so sudden, what are you on about?
All her life, she was good at one thing : breaking people's relationship.
I know, because I'm not blind.
She's the type of person that looks at you after saying your deepest secret in front of everyone and be like : "oups teehee🤪 you know i can't keep a secret" or she plays dumb "i didn't know it was a secret oupsis" with this little dumb face that I know by heart means "I win you fuck*ng idiot".
She broke the good relationship my parents had by pretending mom told her something when it wasn't right or vice versa. When she's at dad's, she always talks about all the things mom does that sucks. When she was at mom, she was always talking about how bad it was at dad.
I was in the middle like , bruh, it isn't even that bad. And of course, my parents both being proud individuals started feeling supperior than the other and downgrading the other in front of us (wich you know my sis was repeating over and over to everyone).
But because my parents are fucking blind they let her riled them up against each others. So now they don't talk. And when they do, it is always to argue about how to take care of my sis.
To make a clear example of how she gets everything she wants :
She always tells me that she wants a Mira dog. Like a service dog. She's going to keep creating dramatic scenarios like that until my father cries and decides it is the last option we have.
But no. After the dog, it is going to be another need for neurodivergent people that she's probably going to see on Tik Tok.
Because yes, she faints and yes, she is hyperventilating. But I can create scenario in my head and make them real too (maladaptive daydreaming oups). Anxiety works like that : if I start hyperventilating for 45 seconds, my body jumps to survival mode and the mammoth thing ang boom, there you have your panic attack.
Yes. She is mentally hill.
But she's not autistic. She does not need a service dog. And she can't continue leading people on like that.
She's in need of negative attention. She hates when we compliment her, she hates when we wish her happy brithday and all. But she's always talking about how she did bad at this exam and ho people please comfort me. There's always something going on with her.
She stopped self-harming and having suicidal toughts. People started living normally.
So she restarts panic attacks but she already has a psychiatrist so she needs more.
Lets go to the hospital, something's wrong with my heart. Then she's got the pleasure of walking around school with a machine to record her heart thingy.
Nope. Nothing wrong.
People start forgetting.
Whoops now she's fainting and we don't know why.
Hospital trip yeah.
Nothing's wrong.
Then she buys a machine to keep track of her blood pressure.
Does a doctor prescribed it?
Nope. You can just buy it so she did. And she could do it like in the morning, at lunch or at night, but no, she absolutly needs to do it in front of everyone, making noise in class while the teacher is talking.
And i'm starting to get fed up.
About a year into this nightmare, 3 years ago, I stopped feeling.
I wasn't able to feel anything. And that is why, today, I can write this and unfortunatly for some, it will be controversial.
After my downfall, when my sister was in need...
I did not care.
At all.
She could do whatever she wanted to do. She could have as much trip to the hospital as she wanted.
I . Did . Not . Care .
I was going to class.
And my phone was on silent.
I don't want to know. I don't care. Don't you get it? Mom, dad, leave me alone. You did it well, right? Continue.
I am an horrible human being. My best friend tries to comfort me saying that my heart of stone is a form of self-protection, a defense mechanism that I developped 3 years to protect myself and not live trough what my sister put us trough without knowing (or caring?).
Still.
I am an egoist.
But I do not care.
You want to make me feel like a glass child?
Alright alright.
I'll deal with it.
But now the glass is fed up.
And it is about to break.
Good bye and thank you for coming all the way here.

I am currently doing the odin project, and because I was always interested in computers, math and everything in between, it is going really well. My plan is breaching into web development and after a little experience, branching out. But, to be honest, I am not really loving it. I don't like writing html and css, sometimes javascript, I feel like I enjoy writing code more in c# or could be enjoying other languages more. After getting my fundamentals straight, I immediately took a break from odin project and went on making mini-games in javascript canvas. It is a lot more interesting to me.
My question is, what other paths can I take towards my first developer job? Is there a possibility to skip the web part and go directly into other areas?
I am interested in game development, mobile game development, embedded sounds amazing but I know there is no place for me there without a CS degree, software development and many others

Hi i was hoping someone could give me an outsiders perspective. so here is my issue
In my history class we did a writing assignment and it was a two day activity the first day you write and intro paragraph and you turn it in and then you get feedback from the teacher and the teacher gives you a grade she would give you if that were graded. You receive the feedback and the "imaginary" grade about a week later in class in the same allotted time given to complete the entire essay and you edit and revise your intro that you did prior and get a real grade. Between the assignments there was a class day where for about 30 mins the teacher talked to the class and gave them advice and tips on how to write with their prompt. FYI this assignment ended up being over 15 percent of our grade. And the teacher did not grade it until 3 weeks later.
In my situation I was absent the first day writing the intro paragraph in class because I was not feeling well. The next day I went to her classroom even though I didn't have the class that day and I said I was gone and my teacher interrupted me and said I have to take the whole assignment without feedback with everyone else does the real essay. SO the next day in class I did my best to understand the prompt my class had that I didn't know of at the time and the reading sources that had to be included without reading them. I tried to understand what the suggestions were and what was being said in class so after class I asked my friends in class to tell me the prompt because I was gone. I decided over the weekend I will study extra with the information I had and try my best even though I do not have feedback. When I got to class to do the actual essay I was given a completely different prompt than the rest of the class and was shocked because I was completely blind sighted by the prompt. I panicked but then tried my best to come up with an assignment that was not terrible. I spent most of my time trying to work on the intro paragraph to make the work okay because it was half the grade of the assignment. I finished the essay and I was very nervous but thought I should not tell my teacher how unfair it is.
After 3 weeks my grade was released and I got a C- (I am usually and A-B student) and I was very devastated because it caused my grade to go down 5 percent and moving down to a B. I was distraught and went home and cried a lot because I started the school year with a C and had to work to get the A I had before this was graded. The assignment brought my grade back to a place it had been months ago practically erasing all my hard work. I decided I would talk to my teacher and explain because I felt like I needed to do something because of the sudden drop it isn't even possible to go back to an A. I sent my teacher an email and went to her class the next day asking if I could retake or do another assignment in the category to bring my grade up because it was unfair to me the way I had to take it. She completely said I couldn't do anything and I need to try hard in the final and I explain why I was so upset because it brought my grade back to what it once was not because I think my teacher didn't give me a fair chance. My mom sent her an email today asking if my teacher could explain the situation to her because she couldn't understand how the situation could be affecting me to the extent that it is. My teacher responded and said a bunch of stuff abt how trying hard doen't = good grades and then said I would fit better in another non advanced class
Was I in the wrong doing this?
WHat should I do next please help me!

Hi i was hoping someone could give me an outsiders perspective. so here is my issue
In my history class we did a writing assignment and it was a two day activity the first day you write and intro paragraph and you turn it in and then you get feedback from the teacher and the teacher gives you a grade she would give you if that were graded. You receive the feedback and the "imaginary" grade about a week later in class in the same allotted time given to complete the entire essay and you edit and revise your intro that you did prior and get a real grade. Between the assignments there was a class day where for about 30 mins the teacher talked to the class and gave them advice and tips on how to write with their prompt. FYI this assignment ended up being over 15 percent of our grade. And the teacher did not grade it until 3 weeks later.
In my situation I was absent the first day writing the intro paragraph in class because I was not feeling well. The next day I went to her classroom even though I didn't have the class that day and I said I was gone and my teacher interrupted me and said I have to take the whole assignment without feedback with everyone else does the real essay. SO the next day in class I did my best to understand the prompt my class had that I didn't know of at the time and the reading sources that had to be included without reading them. I tried to understand what the suggestions were and what was being said in class so after class I asked my friends in class to tell me the prompt because I was gone. I decided over the weekend I will study extra with the information I had and try my best even though I do not have feedback. When I got to class to do the actual essay I was given a completely different prompt than the rest of the class and was shocked because I was completely blind sighted by the prompt. I panicked but then tried my best to come up with an assignment that was not terrible. I spent most of my time trying to work on the intro paragraph to make the work okay because it was half the grade of the assignment. I finished the essay and I was very nervous but thought I should not tell my teacher how unfair it is.
After 3 weeks my grade was released and I got a C- (I am usually and A-B student) and I was very devastated because it caused my grade to go down 5 percent and moving down to a B. I was distraught and went home and cried a lot because I started the school year with a C and had to work to get the A I had before this was graded. The assignment brought my grade back to a place it had been months ago practically erasing all my hard work. I decided I would talk to my teacher and explain because I felt like I needed to do something because of the sudden drop it isn't even possible to go back to an A. I sent my teacher an email and went to her class the next day asking if I could retake or do another assignment in the category to bring my grade up because it was unfair to me the way I had to take it. She completely said I couldn't do anything and I need to try hard in the final and I explain why I was so upset because it brought my grade back to what it once was not because I think my teacher didn't give me a fair chance. My mom sent her an email today asking if my teacher could explain the situation to her because she couldn't understand how the situation could be affecting me to the extent that it is. My teacher responded and said a bunch of stuff abt how trying hard doen't = good grades and then said I would fit better in another non advanced class
Was I in the wrong doing this?
WHat should I do next please help me!

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There’s a lot of pressure in today’s education system: the stress of covering the entire syllabus. There is also pressure on parents for the education of their children and pressure on teachers to transfer all the information and knowledge onto their students. Today we are here in 2023, where everyone is stressed, and to get relief from that stress & pressure, what we need is a better education system.
India is a top-ranking nation that is renowned for its science and technology, and this is due to the practical learning that goes into everything. When India used to be the world’s wealthiest nation and the centre of knowledge, students used to learn in open spaces under trees from their gurus. But now, the objective is to transfer knowledge from instructors to students, regardless of whether they understand the content.
That shows how much our country needs to change its education system. This article will share some of the best reasons why we need to change our education system. Grab a cup of coffee and sit comfortably to dig into it deep; let’s go:

Reasons why education needs a makeover:

Untrained teacher

We all know only rote learning techniques as this is our method for completing the entire syllabus rather than using any practical way of learning. Even our teachers taught us only the written book syllabus and covered it for the whole year. We need to finish the entire written syllabus in books without getting prepared for the real world we will face.

Unhealthy competitive nature

We all have experienced that. Yes! You are reading it right. From childhood, our teacher and parents always compared our school grades to others instead of seeing the uniqueness of every single student. We all are told to prepare for competition against each other rather than supporting each other or finding our unique skills or personality. Our education system only prepares students for a rat race to be engineers, doctors, CAs, or MBAs.

Outdated curriculum

In today’s fast-paced technological world, rather than providing any information or practical understanding of using technologies, students still use rote learning methods and cover their entire book syllabus to prepare themselves for exams.

Heavy curriculum

Today, only a tiny percentage of people have got real practical knowledge. Otherwise, we all had to read the complete book like a cram parrot before exams and then be left in the real world to deal with everything without having any knowledge of practical things.

Irrelevant information to the job market

The pupils’ knowledge now might need to be more helpful for the jobs they hold tomorrow. The traditional fields of engineering and medicine continue to receive priority in the Indian educational system. Because of the ongoing advancement of technology, the work sector has undergone a significant transformation. Yet, our existing curriculum does not equip our students with the necessary skills to find employment after graduation to promote entrepreneurship from a young age.

Insufficient focus on originality and innovation

The traditional gurukul system fostered innovation, experimentation, hands-on learning, and creativity. The current educational system in India cannot encourage kids to be imaginative or creative enough to master these crucial abilities.
Only if all students are encouraged to participate in discussions, develop unique solutions, or innovate.

To Sum Up:

Overall, there are various reasons why our education system needs to be changed. Students get pressured to study subjects they don’t want to study and have bad mental health because of high expectations from their parents. Also, our educational system fails to recognize or reward deserving students. These students’ futures are somewhere that also lie in the hands of untrained teachers. It is essential that students are taught the meaning of real life and how to handle it.

A few months ago, I was so ready to graduate and leave this town. College was the most exciting thing. Now it’s all hitting me like a train. I have never been so scared in my life. I’m going to be so far from home; literally alone as a new adult. I’m terrified I won’t be able to handle college curriculum because my current school kinda sucks and is horribly grade inflated. I’ll miss my pets. I’m going to have to get a new job after working a single one for 3 years and I’m gonna be stuck sharing a room with a random person. My life isn’t great right now but at least I can rely on its consistency. College move in day is honestly going to be the worst day of my life.

Would you like to learn faster and remember more? This is usually the number one struggle for most students. When studying is poor or ineffective, the consequences are usually low self-esteem and low grades. Today, we’re here to help you improve and crack the code on how to study smarter. Here are some evidence-backed learning strategies for school students that will not only increase how fast you study but also how well you do so. Be sure to put them to work today.

1. Visualize concepts

Visualization entails the representation of content- usually in textual content- into visual cues or representations. Various studies indicate that visualization can offer huge benefits in terms of avoiding cognitive overload which happens when you learn too much information at once. Moreover, research shows you can improve learning ability or comprehension by up to 400x through visualization.
So how do you visualize when studying? This entails drawing:

• Mind maps
• Charts
• Diagrams

Besides representing data in visual form, you can also visualize text by way of flow charts to make them easier and faster to recall.

1. Study with music

Nothing so loud that the windows shake. Instead, a soothing tune can help you relax and focus. But don’t just take our word for it. Consider the research by Florida National University, which finds that the right music can elevate cognitive abilities by activating the brain’s two spheres.
Additionally, music can act as a multisensory “exercise” for your brain, thus sharpening your ability to concentrate. As a general rule of thumb, research finds that instrumental music is usually the most effective for studying. String instruments in particular can have amazing results, but generally, you want to avoid verbose or fast-paced songs which can become too distracting and get in your way instead.

1. Say it out loud

Are you a silent reader? Silent reading is no doubt fast, but if you want to learn more effectively, you want to embrace effective study habits for students such as saying things out loud.
Studies by the University of Waterloo vouch for the effectiveness of reading information aloud, stating that this simple habit can:

• Trigger active learner involvement
• Result in long-term memory benefits
• Improve focus and concentration during studying

1. Test yourself regularly

You don’t need to wait around till test time at your school to write an exam. Learn to regularly test yourself throughout the school year, in addition to examination times.
That’s because several students have substantiated the benefits of regular testing, as one of the most reliable ways to improve memory retention and your ability to grasp or comprehend new concepts.

1. Space your sessions

Don’t wait till the last moment before an exam to read and re-read concepts over and over. Instead, science recommends that you should wait at least 6 hours before going over the same concept.
Some more tips from the American Psychological Association in this regard, include:

• Split up subjects throughout the week
• Study the same concept once only per day
• Study for a fourth of your weekly study duration in one day
• So if you want to study a subject for 12 hours, study it 4 times a week

Spacing out sessions can improve long-term memory as opposed to cramming things in quick, relentless succession.

1. Write notes

Do you take notes while studying? According to several studies by US universities, our critical thinking skills and long-term memory go up a notch when we write information down more than when we don’t. That’s because the more you jot things down, the higher the level of neural activity in your brain.
Therefore, writing things down by pen is one of the simplest yet important study techniques for students that you would do well to inculcate into your habits.

1. Interleave studies

Interleaving is the process of learning several concepts or subjects sequentially as opposed to focusing on just one skill set, subject, or topic (a study process called “blocked practice”). According to an Educational Psychology report, interleaving is one of the most proven scientific learning techniques and has been substantiated to hold the following benefits

• Improve your brain’s differentiation ability
• Enhance knowledge transference
• Improved categorization skills
• Heightened problem-solving capacity

1. Study before bed

Sleep is a powerful thing for the human mind and body. When you study concepts right before you sleep, you can tap into the power of what the experts refer to as ”sleep-dependent memory consolidation.”
While research placed the most effective study times to be between late morning through early afternoon periods, consistently reading before bed has been proven to bode well for long-term memory and can also help lower your chances of experiencing cognitive illnesses such as Alzheimer’s. That’s not to say you should push all your study sessions to before bedtime. But rather, work on your weak points before going to bed for the day to give the knowledge enough time to simmer as you slumber.

1. Learn outside, occasionally

Studying in the outdoors is obviously not ideal as a full-time arrangement. However, do so occasionally and the results can be tremendous. In fact, going by research from the University of Arizona, studying outside offers many benefits in comparison to indoor learning, namely:

• Sunlight exposure can elevate calm & attention due to amplified serotonin production
• Improved creativity. Nature can enhance creativity by 60%
• Reduced stress

Moreover, researchers found that 20 minutes spent outdoors can naturally boost your body’s energy by the equivalent of a cup of coffee, helping you to be more attentive when you study.

1. Teach others

Sometimes, the best way to learn is to teach. Research by the University of Washington finds just as much, in what scientists today call the protégé effect. It basically finds that you’re bound to put more effort into mastering a concept if you know you’re going to be demonstrating your knowledge to someone else.
Therefore, strive to teach those at a lower knowledge level than you, and also to learn from others who might explain concepts differently, in a way that might be easier to comprehend than the initial information delivery.
Study hard and smart!
Most want to master study techniques for students so they can spend less time studying. However, there really is no substitute for hard work. You just have to put in the work to get good grades. But knowing how to study smarter will always make things a lot easier for you. Planning ahead is also key so that you’re not pressed for time and have to rush through your studies. Additionally, group studying is also an excellent way to comprehend difficult concepts faster.

I have 3 sisters, one is older than me by 5 years, and the other two are younger than me by 7 and 9 years, they're still teenagers.
Well, when my older sister and I were children my parents would always fight a lot, even getting physical. My older sister and I would go to the last room of the house and stay there until the fight was over, I always cried and cried, but she would act indifferent towards me and told me she wished "they would get a divorce already", sometimes the fight would get really bad I would have to rush out of the room to wrestle a knife out of my parents hands, my older sister would stand on the room and watch it all happened, then when it was all over she would cry to me for not helping me and I had to comfort her.
After this rocky stage of my parents marriage passed, I became a very problematic child, sometimes I wonder if it was because the fights, I would get beaten and punished, but my older sister never came to calm me down or comfort me. She would also get punished for bad grades and cried for it, I would do my very best to be there on her side.
When my younger sisters were born things calmed down.
When I entered high school I began to get bullied, this led me to self harm, when I tried to talk about it to my older sister, she accused me with my parents and I got beaten up for being "a dumb teen who wasn't apreacciating all my parents did for me", my sister stayed on her room while all of this was going on. I never told her a thing again.
She never talked back, she never defended me, she never comforted me, she never tried to approach me, and due to our age gap, she never played with me either, she always had places to be, things to do, she was never at the house.
I became more attached to my younger siblings. When the pandemic started, being trapped in a house together made my older sister coexist more us, her sisters. Anyway, my parents relapsed their arguments on this time, they weren't as bad as when I was a child, but they were loud enough to scare my little sisters, so I would let them hide in my room and made my best to comfort them and distract them, my older sister wouldn't leave her room at these times, I think this was just her protecting herself from past memories.
With time, my older sister started to get more and more involved with my little sisters, and they love her, but every time I see my older sister hugging, spending time with them, and comforting them, I can't help but feel deep sadness, why she was never like that with me? Does she hate me that much? She has told me several times she loves me, like in my birthdays or holidays, but she seems to never have anything to do with me. I just wish to be comforted like that when I'm scared. I'm always scared about everything, I wish I could talk to her and ask her for advice, I wish she would talk to me. I'm doing my very best to reconect with her now that we're both adults, maybe we can understand each other better.
I just want to be her "little sister" again.

There was this lie I started telling people in 8th grade. I told it because I had Russian genetics and thought it made me sound cool or something juvenile like that, but now i just say it out of habit. Basically, I've told everyone in my life that I was born in Russia, lived there until I was 4, then moved to America and have lived there since. Obviously, this lie hasn't actually affected my relationships or life up until this point- it would just end up in a reaction like "oh, cool! sooka blyat" or another typical American response. I confided in this lie because I really am Russian, I just wasn't actually born there so I didn't see the harm in a little lie to boost getting people interested in me.
Now fast forward to college freshman year, I'm still telling people this lie because up until this point it hasn't affected any relationships before so I haven't cared about lying. In my German class I meet this guy, we get to talking, he asks me about my past- and then I dropped the lie, like usual. Now it's 7 months later, we've been dating 4 and a half months and he wants to ask my parents about why they decided to have me in Russia. My parents are completely unaware of the fact that I've been lying about this for years, so if he asked my life would be over. He makes it very very clear at the beginning of the relationship that he doesn't tolerate lying and is very hesitant on second/third chances. Now that I'm so comfortable with this lie, it doesn't even cross my mind that I told it, so I nod and tell him he can trust me (as I really don't lie about anything else besides this thing).
Because of this, for the past couple of weeks this lie has been haunting me, every time my bf visits my parents I get intense anxiety that he'll ask them the dreaded question. Not only would he be mad at me, my family would be furious that I ruined a relationship with a promising young man that they actually like.
I want to tell him the truth so desperately, but I'm so afraid of him leaving. He tells me every day how he couldn't imagine things without me even if it's only been 4 months, he admits that it shocks him how attached he is to me and how he trusts me deeply. I'm now friends with all of his friends and they all love me and I love his friends, too. I have so much fun with him every day. Every time he says something regarding trust I feel a pang of horrible guilt. Every day feels like it's getting harder and harder to keep this lie, but I don't want him to go at all. I don't know what to do.
Please try to be kind, I've had a lot outside of this happen recently and I think I've beat myself up enough about this to advocate for anybody else who would want to. I want this lie to be over and I want to deliver the truth in the best way I can, even if it does end up in him leaving I'll be glad I at least finally told him.
If you have advice on how I should break this to him, please share

Hi. I'm a class 9th passout going to 10th. CBSE school and syllabus. Need a person or persons with whom I can study for 10th. Happy to talk with anyone who dms me. We will talk and get to know eachother a bit to see if we can work together and then start studying.

mid 60s to high but my grades D/DDC fall short of the C/CCC grades most unis want at least ;-; kinda worried that i wont receive anyth plus i dont rly have a backup plan. idk if wanna go private uni or can go overseas study if cmi to any autonomous unis :') maybe too early to tell but some people in the 70s range alr got interview offers for some schools welp.
any seniors who scored similar grades, how long did u have to wait to get uni interview offers?

we were in a relationship for 15 months, and the reason for our breakup was because of his relationship with his cousin (f22). even before our relationship started, i already had an uneasy feeling towards his cousin, and i don't know why. from the 2nd to the 7th month of our relationship, my bf kept on going to his cousin’s to help his tita sell cakes. there was no week that my boyfriend would miss going to their house and even sleeps there. there were times that my bf would be left alone with his cousin (the girl i was talking about in the first sentence). and i didn’t put malice on that—even once. his cousin keeps messaging him through messenger. they treat each other more intimately than his other girl cousins. and i kept ontelling myself that they were just cousins. there were still a lot of times that i felt bad and jealous because my boyfriend would rather follow his cousin than be with his other cousins, family, or even me. and i didn’t say anything about it. i never said anything about it.
i think on our 8th or 9th month together, my bf blocked her cousin (the girl) and even asked me to block her on my facebook account without telling me why. i didn’t block her, though. so fast forward to just last month, when the other cousin of my bf (the older sister of the girl) added me on facebook. I told my boyfriend about it, and he told me not to accept her request, which i did. and just this month, she added me again. so i told my boyfriend about it again, and he told me the same thing.
idk but i asked my bf why. i mean, why would he want me to have no connection to them? like, what’s your reason, ba? i asked him to give me one reason why i should not accept the friend request. then he told me something that i never expected.
something happened with my boyfriend and his cousin before. before we got into the relationship. before we knew each other. something happened between them before "we" happened.
tbh. the fact that they had a past didn’t even bother me. it was fine with me. it was part of his past, but it was already in the past. we can’t do anything about it. but the fact that he knew all along that his cousin is into him and he didn’t do anything to avoid her hurt me. the fact that he knew that his cousin wanted us to break up but kept going to their house and even spent hours with each other hurt me. i can still clearly remember the times that my boyfriend told me that he would bring his cousin somewhere to unwind because he felt bad for her. that time where he told me he couldn’t bring me to my workplace because he had something to do with his cousin. and all those times, i felt bad. i felt sad. i invalidated my feelings, thinking that I should not feel that way because, for goodness sake, they’re cousins. i even cried myself to sleep wondering about their deleted messages from their conversation.
what my boyfriend told me was something that i never know i would process, and rn i can’t think straight of what I should do. i broke up with him just this week, but i feel like i made the wrong decision. i am hurting, but i am hurting more because i know that he is hurting as well.
did i make the right decision? am i not overreacting? am i still being rational? i would read and appreciate your opinion/s.
it should be ex, not boyfriend, tho.

Why do OWEs love making shit up? Here are some of the weirdest lies I've heard Cultsplainers say.

1. A person who went against the INC died, and later they found worms in his brain.
2. Leonardo DiCaprio is an INC member.
3. INC soldiers were made to eat dinuguan by their commander, they asked Eraño to make it so that it isn't a sin, so Eraño prayed about it or something, and declared that they are now good to go and eat dinuguan.
4. A person who went against the INC was struck by lightning. (Probable, but given that it's from an OWE's mouth, I'll pass)

What are the most absurd things you've heard from INCs?
Edit: Oh, and 5. Eraño being given sand by an angel.